Respect is EVERYTHING!
September 22, 2008 at 11:03 PM Pavan 25 comments
A very good day to all my readers! 🙂 Yesterday, I was thinking about the respect shown to my father by other people. I will explain why later in this post. Having this in mind, I was browsing the net looking for anything based on respect. At that time, I came across this very interesting website. It is about RESPECT. This made me think of the various forms respect. According to me, there are two. They are:
- Respect due to fear of the person.
- Respect shown for the value you have given them in your heart.
Don’t worry guys, I will explain. But before that I wish to tell you about the examples that I am going to take in order to explain it. For the first, I take the example of my current(temporary) HOD(Head Of Department). His name is Sameerana. For the second I take my favourite lecturer Mr. Nandeeswar.S.B. If you were very observant, you would have already made out the difference between the respect I have for both these people. But I will explain even otherwise.
Sameerana:
This person is very strict and bosses around the students pretty much the whole time. The reason why I have some respect for him is due to his attitude towards mistakes. He thinks students should not make any mistakes and there should be no room for indiscipline at all. What good is a student life without all these? According to him, we are not undergraduate students but post-graduates. I fear his wrath and obey most of what he says. But otherwise, I hate him. One thing what I thought was, why do people impose themselves on others? The answer I am yet to find out. Now moving on to my next example.
Mr. Nandeeswar.S.B:
Please let me know if I overdo the description part. It is because of the immense respect I have towards him. Why do I respect him so much? The reason is because he does not impose himself on anyone. He is more of a friend than a lecturer to me. He is my definition of a lecturer. I see him as a person who can be trusted with responsibility and leadership. A person like him would not misuse it. This post sir, is a tribute to you. You may not realize how much you have actually done for me. I really wish you would stay in this college for a couple more years, until I complete my engineering. Kudos to a wonderful teacher! 🙂
Now that I have explained how I respect these two people, you must have a clear idea on what the two kinds of respect are. Respect is not respect if it is induced because of fear. The way people respect you is based entirely on how you carry yourself in everyday life. Now coming back to my dad, it was because of great love and gratitude that the person showed his respect. A SALUTE to all the people who were responsible for me to write this post. 🙂
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apoorva | September 22, 2008 at 11:19 PM
very much true….infact not only respect,but no such feelings can b induced…it shld come from within…. good post man…
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vimal | September 23, 2008 at 12:47 AM
Gr8 post.
I feel we all respected our parents because of the first factor and then slowly after realising things around us, the respect developed into the second one.
But whatever said and done, and how much you hate that professor, 10 years down the lane, wouldnt u go up urself and greet him if you happen to see him somewhere?
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Anniyan | September 23, 2008 at 8:51 AM
@apoorva
Thanks. 🙂
@vimal
True to the last word. 🙂 But I SERIOUSLY doubt that I will even think of him 2 years down the lane. And I would definitely not even initiate conversation. But I might smile if it is an awkward situation like sitting next to him in the bus or something like that. 🙂
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Nikhil | September 23, 2008 at 10:18 AM
Nice post, dude… A good teacher is always one who demands respect without asking for it… 🙂
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Suvidha | September 23, 2008 at 1:30 PM
Hey Pavan, Nice post
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Manoj Sterex | September 23, 2008 at 7:07 PM
Yep!
And one more thing I’d like to add to your already wonderful post:
The first form of respect is lost when the person in question loses his/her authority. In your example, if you were to see your HOD elsewhere, (where he has no (better put, cannot impose) authority on you, you’ll not see him with the same respect.
The second form though is undying. The respect born out of love, trust or devotion never fades. Wherever you meet your lecturer, you’ll be truly respectful and honest with him.
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Reets | September 23, 2008 at 8:17 PM
Hi Pavan
Nice post. Thats really true …however the presence of certain persons command respect whereas for some what respect we have or display is an artificial one. Certain people by their deeds make us respect them irrespective of their age. I truly believe That one needs to give respect and only then expect others to respect him/her.Keep writing such good posts….:)
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Dinesh Babu | September 23, 2008 at 8:29 PM
Very nice post, you are right about how respect comes out, out of fear and out of liking. Your example is very apt!
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Anniyan | September 23, 2008 at 9:39 PM
@Nikhil
Totally right dude. 🙂 Wonder what Reema has to say about this comment. 😀
@Suvidha
Hey! 🙂 Welcome to Care to take a Look? Thank you. 🙂
@Manoj
True. Very true. Authoritarian respect lasts only as long as the authority itself lasts.
@Reets
Welcome to Care to take a Look? Thank you. 🙂 The proverb Give respect and take respect is 100% right. But the meaning is not clear to us in the early stages of life. Adulthood brings with it many revelations; of which, this is also one. 🙂
@Dinesh
Thank you. 🙂
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Reema | September 23, 2008 at 11:21 PM
Good examples and I agree with you from both a teacher and a student’s point of view.
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Reema | September 23, 2008 at 11:22 PM
Hey u mentioned me and here I am!! what a coincidence!
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Reema | September 23, 2008 at 11:30 PM
Ok now expanding my comment there needs to be a balance between the fear and the friendliness. There are some students in every class who are just as I categorised defaulters and one needs to instill fear in them to get work done by them…for their own good. If I m v strict n ask them to do an assignment , they may hate me but its going to benefit them in the long run. Likewise in being friendly too a teacher needs to know where does the limit end. A distance is necessary to maintain order and discipline.
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Su | September 23, 2008 at 11:53 PM
Considering the fact that u don’t think of this genre of posts usually, its a very good post. And it is more so because, any topic worth speaking about in a good detail, will span into a big discussions between us at ur home. and so, this comes as a second topic for our discussion this weekend (probably)
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Oxy | September 24, 2008 at 2:11 AM
Whoa!!! This came as a surprise to me.. A very different read from usual stuff available on blogs.
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Bhargava - Sandhya | September 24, 2008 at 9:39 AM
PAVAN –
Talking about a teacher, I remember the quote on the wall of the Head Master at VIJAYA HIGH SCHOOL. I did not study there but used to go to pick up my little sister and happened to take a peek into the Head Master’s room on many a occasions ! 🙂
Apoorva, my beloved sandhya and others who are from VIJAYA might recognise this quote …
The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires. ~William Arthur Ward
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About respect sandhya brought up a great point ….. respect is never proportionate to ones age ….. I agree to it completely …… thoughts ! ???
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T | September 25, 2008 at 1:40 AM
I prefer to give respect to elders and strangers. The wise ones will surely get it right.
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Anniyan | September 25, 2008 at 6:15 PM
@Reema
I agree there is a limit to everything. You should check out my post Limits of life. Order and discipline are ok until they are beneficiary. 🙂
@SU
I am sure of that. So are you going to bunk classes this weekend or make time after them? However it is, let me know. 🙂
@Oxy
Variety is the spice of life. 😀
@Bhargava
I agree! I agree! 😀
@T
I didn’t quite get the strangers part. Does this make me “un”-wise? 🙂
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arvind | September 25, 2008 at 10:18 PM
awesome post dude …very well explained..
almost every student must be aware of the kind of respect they show towards their teachers ..
All one would want after getting older is to get respect ..the second one ..
@vimal
well said 🙂
@reema
you give assignments :O 😛
poor students… do they copy or do by their own ..i have never done any assignment on my own
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jai | September 26, 2008 at 7:43 AM
hi wonderful attempt.i love the theme.especially the anecdotes u have given.good pavan.awesome post this time.
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Anniyan | September 26, 2008 at 8:35 AM
@arvind
Thanks dude. 🙂 Yes you are right about students getting to know the kind of respect they show. After getting older, we would want many things. The last of which is money.
@jai
Thank you. 🙂
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MAG | September 26, 2008 at 3:28 PM
Hi All,
I have been observing the posts by all you guys….
One thing I I would like to point is that there can be only one relationship with any person at any given point of time.
In this example, you have two teachers who are proven in their skills in their own ways… one believes in following things in a strict manner… (sameerana) and the other believes in having a relationship with the student by being a friend.
Both are good in their own ways…
I can even quote another example.. in my own case and in another’s case.
There is this bro of mine who had a tution teacher very closeby to our place. he use to spend most of his time after college at this tutions.
While the lecturer is an able and proven person, my bro had to download or make the lecture share his knowledge to him..
Beyond the teacher student relationship, they also an affinity towards each other and as time went by they becam gud friends….. the teacher was very accomodative to my bro and his friends at the tutions…. Eventually, what happened was that the teacher could not develop his teaching skills and make the guys understand that their studies are more important than anything else, the students’ performance slowly came down…. especially my bro.
I would definitely not blame the teacher for he only tried a way to impart his knowledge but the students could not capitalize on the same.
In this example, you would note that there is a lot of respect shown towards the lecturer here but eventually the very purpose of going to tutions was defeated.
Similarly, Sameerana is good in his own ways… I still remember Suguna Ma’m at my school. She was one strict teacher at school who taught me Sanskrit at school. she was a very tough teacher and was a very strict lady. everyone had their own perceptions of the teacher as in Sameerana’s case.
when I actually finished my final preparatory at school before the 10th Final exams, I have to admit that she told me I would fail in my board exams with the kind of marks I had secured in the preparatory. Eventually, that brought in a lot of seriousness in me and finally I ended up with a very high %age.
The learnig is that each one is good in their own ways… we need to learn to accept and respect them.
This would be the first thing to learn in any management course and in your professional life.
Do comment on the above…. this might sound as a lecture…. but purely my experience….
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Anniyan | September 26, 2008 at 4:50 PM
@MAG
For any of those who don’t know, I am the brother he is referring to. If you can just scroll towards the top and read one of my previous comments, you can see that I have mentioned about everything having a limit. I should have stayed in my limit and not abused the teacher’s friendliness and the teacher should have stayed in his limit and not let us have that much fun. There was a fault on both our sides. But then again, I also remember Suguna ma’am and her strictness. Well bro, let me tell you. It is in no way similar to what Sameerana is.
The ability to tell which is the limit comes only by experience. I think now I am experienced enough to tell the difference. 🙂 Thanks for commenting and giving us your valuable suggestion. 🙂
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MAG | September 26, 2008 at 8:03 PM
The intention was not to pull you up………
Definitely you would realise this as you have done today……
I have not tried comparing anyone here…… but only trying to tell you that each one is unique in his/her own way. We need to learn to respect and accept them….
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Anniyan | September 27, 2008 at 5:46 PM
@MAG
I have realized quite a few things in life already. Although be it in the painful way. I should have taken your advice and opened my eyes sooner. But I guess better late than never. What do you say?
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